"Changing the mindset" is a useful technique with a person who has a fixed belief about a situation. Before changing the (fixed) mind-set, it's important to "loosen the negative thinking around the edges". This means sowing seeds of doubt about its validity; highlighting strengths, abilities and resources in them as a person; and, if possible, flagging up how some of these were used in the situation.
For best results “horses for courses” applies. Some might find one tool or technique helpful, others will experiment with another that proves helpful. All are available to try and it’s often about finding “what works” for you.
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